As per usual, I was reading articles for twenty-somethings and was recommended this Man Repeller article called The Only 10 Things You Need to Know Post-Graduation. Most of the tips were all reminiscent of things I have learned over the last year or so but #9 really stuck out to me. It was called “Keep the ‘movie theatre’ momentum” and it said:
You know, that fleeting feeling between the final line and the closing credits of a truly transcendent film when you whisper resolutions into your popcorn bucket: I will tell him how I feel, I will quit my job, I will not be afraid of failure, I will never participate in or allow the evil destruction of another Avatar culture’s Hometree. In life after college, you may find that there are fewer junctures to confront those principles and an abundance of convenient excuses to avoid them. When you feel the matrix of minutia getting in the way, watch the closing scene of Say Anything and let yourself get reacquainted with your closing-credit-confessions.
That point, as abstract as it is, reminded me of two things. The first was my feeling at the end of How to Be Single. And the second was a conversation I had with one of my girlfriends the other day. We were talking, as twentysomething girls do, about how life is going to turn out and what we were going to do next. It was during this conversation that I realized this seems to be a consistent topic through chats with all of my friends. I feel like (almost) 24 is an odd age where you feel like you should have your life together but no one really does. It is often easy to forget that everyone is pretty much in the same boat.
We are at an age where we are trying to determine what our next steps are but we are planning them based on a forever basis. The problem with that is that we should be focusing on what we are going to be doing now instead of always focusing on the ten year mark. Don’t get me wrong, it is good to have aspirations and life goals but I think we need to be reminded that people don’t usually do the same things forever. It may even be more relevant to focus more on the feelings you want when you reach your goals instead of putting so much pressure into trying to figure out what you need to start now that you can do for the rest of your life. No one can speak in certainty about the future and yet, at our age it seems to be the only thing we focus on.
I guess what I am trying to say is this is the time where we learn. We are currently in the process of figuring out who we are, what we love, and where we want to be. This is one of the most important times for us to take advantage of the fact that no one else really depends on us and we can do things for ourselves. I think the best advice we can take from the generations before us is appreciate wherever you are, gain as much experience as you can by trying things out and continue to forge your path. The more we follow this in the moment lifestyle, the better our futures will be because we will be able to look back and appreciate the experience of figuring out what the future would hold.